It all started with a conversation at Happy Hour with Melissa, my coworker. I was picking her brain about creative names for what I initially wanted to be a travel blog. Well, realistically that idea would be difficult to execute because although I’ve traveled to many places around the world, lately I haven’t been traveling consistently enough to blog about it. So, I thought…”mmm maybe I should blog about my past travel experiences. I have countless stories to tell. I can also write about other life experiences, like the growing pains of adulthood…Oh! I can write about different local and non-local memorable places I’ve been to like certain cafes, restaurants, bars…and what about that nail salon I visited the other day that completely blew my mind? Or that show I saw last week that redefined my whole existence…” Eventually, I found myself wanting to write about almost every single cool experience I had or place I’ve been to. I did not want to leave out anything.
“Well, if you want to write about so many different things, you’ve got to get rid of the word ‘travel’. Maybe you should start with something like ‘explore’ or ‘exploration’…” Melissa expressed in her sweet, motherly tone. She was right. I needed something else…something creative that covered everything I wanted to blog about in one or two words at most. As I sat there contemplating this, Melissa stepped away to grab another beer from the bar and then it struck me- I suddenly wanted another beer. It reminded me of a different time when she grabbed a seltzer and banana from the pantry at work and then I suddenly had a taste for a banana with seltzer. Oh no…I wasn’t even craving a banana or seltzer at the time. And what about the times I’ve been out to dinner and wanted so bad to try the person’s food across from me just to see if it had tasted a little bit better than mine? As if what I had wasn’t enough. Like I was missing out on a better taste. I know this sounds like I’m just a bona fide foodie, which in a lot of ways I am, but the real issue is I was suffering from a case of F.O.M.O. – the fear of missing out.
FOMO isn’t a new thing for me. I’ve had it for some time now. I think about the anxiety that creeps into my chest when I focus on where I am versus where I believe I should be or what I’m doing now versus what someone else is doing or what I’m not doing. It’s like an alarm goes off in my head and a voice gently whispers, “You’re running out of time. You better get it together girl or life will leave you behind…”. If I add social media into the equation and everything else happening in the world, it almost feels like I’m racing against time trying to stay caught up on life. As a result, that fear has created so many blocks within me that sometimes it’s hard to even function.
I joked about it when Melissa returned. “My fomo is kicking in again… Maybe THAT should be the name of my blog- FOMO” I was seriously kidding. “Omg! That’s it! That’s a great idea!” She exclaimed. I thought about it for a second. “Yea… yea I guess it is!” By now we were excited and practically yelling at each other over the blaring music. I’m sure intoxication played a small factor. “FOMO…FOMO…FOMO” I repeated out loud to see how it rolled off the tongue. For the next hour or so we bounced ideas back and forth searching for a definitive name and purpose behind it. We explored different ideas and avenues until we finally settled on…
“NO FOMO!” blog- a personal journal documenting my unique experiences as I work towards overcoming the fear of missing out. I accomplish this by first being present, not comparing and focusing my time and energy on self-improvement and the things I am passionate about. In this blog, I will write about travel. I will write about restaurants, plays, events. I will write about personal challenges, new adventures and whatever else moves me. I will say “NO!” to FOMO and stop allowing it to control my life. Finally, I will embrace the present and release the chains of time. If you are experiencing a similar FOMO or simply looking for interesting things to do or read about, I invite you to join me on my new journey. Hello, my name is Jevonnah and I suffer from F.O.M.O. but not for long!
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